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A village girl making her way to the good lifešāāļø
Not everybody believes in the future.
Because future means we will either regret or enjoy the fruits of our present deeds, future means one day you will have to give an account of how you lived. So not everybody believes in the future because believing in the Future means prioritising responsabilities than rights, it means holding yourself accountable, it demands discipline, soberness, it demands one to do good, it demands hardworking, it demands commitment and dedication.
Something so emotionally sastifying about spending my day in the library, it makes it easy to turn #EmploymentHunting #Jobseeking to a grind. It feels like I’m being progressive in a way.
Of course I spend almost all my day applying for jobs which is actually much easier in the library, filling up an application online with my phone it’s so difficult, stressful and limiting. In the library I can edit my CVs to fit every position, which allows me to apply for more jobs and I don’t have to worry about my data running out so I visit all my potential employers websites to check new posts.
Also there’s just something so calming about sitting in between shelves reading inspirational books It boosts my emotional well-being, job seeking is so depressing. But most importantly the library helps me get through my day, currently I feel like I’m barely coping. I understand that libraries can’t open anytime soon but that’s like my second home and it’s so frustrating not having access to it.
Salute to covid-19 it has the entire world shaking.
One of the things we have to master to win in life is the skill of being honest with ourselves. It might not seem important but actually it plays a huge role in the decisions we take daily ultimately in how our life turns out.
Don’t lie to yourself! What do I mean? Find your values and beliefs( find yourself) and stick to them. For instance let’s talk about faith and God, going to church is not just matter of fulfilling societal obligations. You can have the whole church fooled attending every service but at the end it all won’t count because what truly matters is your faith…..
Weird how the lies we tell seem true to ourselves, we ened up believing in our own lies…hence it’s very important to be true to yourself for instance if you know you’re not grinding hard enough, not pushing yourself to the limit or not studying enough basically if you know you can do better than your current. Stop convincing yourself that you’ve tried whilst you know you could’ve achieved much better.
Be true to yourself in your abilities, strengths and weaknesses it allows you to outline the things you can and can’t do and how to deal with the things you can’t do. WE BECOME WHAT WE TELL OURSELVES!
You’re doing well! You’re definitely not in the same place you were in by this time last year or even when this year begun! Congratulations! Now don’t stop! Discipline and consistency will take you a long way!
We often do not realise the importance of training our minds to think positively. Fact is things wonāt always go the way we plan them, life has its ups and downs and all we need is a strong positive mental to stay up even on the down days.
Honestly every situation gets as bad as we make it out to be in our minds, the moment you convince yourself that itās too much and you can not take it you are most likely going to fail. Train your mind to think positively in negative situations, if the worst is currently happening surely something good will follow. Itās just a matter of looking past your hopeless situation. Often times we are imprisoned by our own thoughts, a small voice constantly saying youāre dreams are too big and unrealistic, youāre not good enough or your life was messed up from how you were brought up and you can never be more than what you are.
Feed your mind and soul positive stuff, believe in yourself and conquer. Try reading motivational books, YouTube videos about self- development, get a mentor, listen to encouraging songs, pray and focus on your goals.
āIād rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeedā.
Robert H. Schuller.
I always thought life would be so much easier after varsity but to my surprise things got worse, all I was prepared for was how hard I was going to work and grow myself intellectually in the corporate world. No one ever warned me about the possibilities of not getting a job or interviews for a year and a half, so psychologically I was never prepared to deal it. I went from being a motivated and enthusiastic girl to this hopeless lifeless girl.
Practically after varsity my life was full of midnight and 5am tears, how do you go to bed in peace while nothing is coming together and waking up to do the same routine of sending applications which do not seem to have any fruitful outcome or any outcome at all. The pain of not being progressive in life and Iād ask myself if the difficulties and troubles I faced during varsity were not enough?? And which game is the universe playing with me like is it the rule that we suppose to get what we put in this life thing? And waking up every morning asking myself why do I keep trying and how much of these disappointments I can take. Volunteering in a community library was basically the only way to survive, that kept my mind busy during the day but I would go back to fight battles in mind every night.
Growing up I was always looking forward to the point where I would do everything for myself and siblings, how great it would be to not worry about what I will eat in the morning or if the kids will have bread to carry to school. And now the only thing that is standing between me and that dream are employers and whatās worse is that everyday I wake and do everything there is to do but still nothing good is coming out of it. When things are this bad how do you not feel like a failure? The countless suicide notes and not having the courage to do it, I couldnāt put my siblings through so much pain I mean theyāve endured a lot.
To survive I learned to pray, to have faith, to believe and to stay on his promise that his plans arenāt to harm me but to prosper me. Till this day Iām still waiting on that promiseā¦.
Growing up in a rural area the only thing that can keep a girl going is ambition, wanting more out of life and believing that if I work hard enough I will achieve all that I hope for. Honestly there isnāt much to do in the village, the circle of life is limited to completing matric most likely with poor marks then be a supermarket cashier, somehow become a young single parent or if youāre lucky get married to a man who earns minimum salary with 3 plus kids and worry if you will have enough food to last throughout the month for the rest of your life.
Dare to dream and try to find ways to make those dreams come true, thatās much better than to live a simple standard life. Many people are afraid of failing and trying out new things instead they comform to what is considered normal.
We all have heard of the expression āpatience is keyā but what amount of patience can really one practice? We all get to a point where we just can not take it anymore, where either something happens or we just quit.
As a Christian my belief and faith does not allow me to quit anything, if I ever stop doing something it means I have something better to try out. My patience comes from believing that Godās timing is perfect and he has a good plan for my life therefore I never quit, yes I do get tired sometimes and feel like quitting everything but If I donāt work hard for my own future then I am ready to live an average life for the rest of my life.
So basically I never give gave up without a better plan. Good things take time and believe me thatās a fact!!
Well a lot of my friends say being focused is about knowing what you want in life, plans for the future and doing everything you can to become what you desire to be. They say focus is to have your head up all the time and not giving in to anything that will delay your progress. In short to them focus is to be always working towards the dream and disregarding everything contrary that is happening around you.
Focus is just how we never forget to nurture the dream while we explore and experience life. I am focused because no matter what life throws at me I never even think of quitting. If you ask me being focus is about a strong mental, breaking down emotionally and being physically exhausted but still keep on trying and pushing the dream. For instance, I have bee trying to get my dream job for a while now, so many regretted posts but I’m still at it.
Being focused is not allowing any form of distractions keep you from achieving what you are ought to do, be it a justifiable reason. It’s to push and strive to fulfil your purpose and do your best out of it. I mean what’s the point of choosing a path when you intend not to commit to it . Focus in short needs to discipline. for examples less “hangout” time with friends to study or do what it is that will get you closer to your dream.
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